Facebook: It’s Not You, It’s Me

Well, it is a little you too. Facebook, we are breaking up.

I took a break from checking Facebook and updating my statuses over the holidays. I didn’t even log in for over two months.

This quote from LittleMissWilde.com articulates very well how I feel about Facebook:

“Facebook is a social utility that allows you to procrastinate by scrolling through a constantly updating stream of photos of pasta, cryptic updates and endless event invites from people you met once three years ago and haven’t spoken to since.”

Facebook isn’t inherently bad for those who can maintain self control, have lots of extra time, and can let silly comments roll off easily. I am not one of those people. Here are a few reasons why I quit:

– I can be a judgemental person. My pastor mentioned once that someone with a spiritual gift of discernment, can slip into using that gift to judge others for subjective reasons instead of righteous reasons. Raises hand, that’s me. I don’t mean to, but I become Judgy McJudgerson when I read people’s updates. Even to the point of judging their use of social media. (Vaguebooking drives me nuts.) I feel like God gave me the Bible verse Matthew 5:30, “And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.” Facebook was causing me to sin in my heart, so I am cutting it off.

– I don’t have a lot of spare brainspace and time to keep up with Facebook. I don’t have time to be upset that the app isn’t working again or that I have another change to figure out. It takes time to manage your account well. Also, I’d love to have time to care about all my friends’ daily minor details, but I simply can’t. All the information is overwhelming to me. I have a few friends and family members that I keep up with outside of Facebook and that is enough for me right now.

– I want to be sought out. If someone truly wants to know what is going with me, then I hope that they would email me, text me, send me a tweet, or invite me to coffee. The same is true in reverse. Since my break from Facebook began in November, I have made a point to invite friends out to lunch and to coffee. I have had brainspace and time to be concerned about friends I deeply care about.

– I don’t trust Facebook. Maybe I have read too many Science Fiction novels or I have taken the movie “The Social Network” to heart when I shouldn’t have. I feel like they want you to put your whole life into Facebook and follow you around the web to fill their data mines. It’s a bit too Big Brotherish for me. Their privacy policies are misleading. I’m not afraid to share about my life on the web. I am all over Twitter, Instagram, Goodreads, Flickr, and here. I just feel in more control over my information on these sites. Especially here at Team Espinoza where I own my own data. I know for a fact that Twitter sells their tweets to marketers, they don’t try to hide it like Facebook. Once a friend  saw a Gap ad on Facebook with a photo of her daughter in it that she had uploaded to Facebook. I shared about my distrust of Facebook back in 2010 here.

I am going to be making more of an effort to blog and update our site. Our baby is 9 months old and life in general in calming down. So look for me over here at Team Espinoza, instead of Facebook.

** Bonus points to anyone who can guess who wrote that post it note in the photo and to whom.